Tuesday, April 13, 2004 :::
how could I have missed? my dead eye musta been closed
::: posted by Matt Dunegan at 11:09 AM
Monday, March 08, 2004 :::
Calm yourself and look ahead
To calm the noise in your head
And instead of getting angry with someone else
Just relax and enjoy yourself.
::: posted by Matt Dunegan at 1:37 PM
Wednesday, January 28, 2004 :::
Dear A Little Broken Hearted,
As I go over your letter, trying to locate you, the image I get is of a woman spinning wildly like a child on a gleaming ballroom floor, throwing sparks into the night, arranging the very universe by her dancing, drunk with attractive power. I see a woman who looks only outward at the shiny, spinning world full of lights but never inward lest she fall, a woman who sees around her other shiny, spinning, fabulous dancers and is briefly drawn into their orbits as they are drawn into hers, forming figure eights as they orbit each other on a great dance floor in some marble ballroom. It is a fabulous, glittering ball, half-mystical, and in this ballroom there is no conversation, only dancing and gesture; nor is there any progression, or any time; there is only whirling and more whirling and when the whirling stops there is only a dreamless sleep of exhaustion in plush red banquet chairs, and then more dancing. There is no remembering of hard times here in this ballroom, nor is there any self-doubt, nor are any names exchanged. No one can remember the last time the music stopped, and no one can remember the last time a contemplative word was uttered. This is not a place where contemplative people come; it is just a whirling ball, glittering and festive and timeless.
That is how I picture you, as a glittering dancer at a ball, who met another glittering dancer and danced wordlessly until you exhausted him and then he whirled away. But when he whirled away you were sad. You expected something else. But what was it you expected? No one in this ballroom knew that you expected anything else. All anyone does here is dance.
This man who turned away from you and hurt you: What was the substance of your understanding of him? What did you learn about his wishes and desires? Was he looking for a wife, or just a playmate? Was he completely single, or partially attached? Was he what they call "emotionally available"? Do you know how one would go about ascertaining if someone is "emotionally available"? Did you consider that a handsome, worldly, charismatic former military man who is now in medical school might be in some ways not emotionally available? Did it occur to you that in your busy, whirling extravagance of spirit you might have neglected to closely study his eyes, how he reacts to you, whether he's shrinking from you as you expand to fill the room with your fabulousness, whether he might have appeared short of breath as you sucked the oxygen out of the air around him, whether you might have missed any attempt on his part, however subtle and coded, to warn you that he was not the man for you?
It may be that you have great attractive power but only have transactions, not relationships, with men; that would explain why men come and go from your boudoir at will -- because although you may dance with them and sleep with them, you have neglected the careful disclosure and attentive listening through which two people establish an emotional narrative. You almost sound like a woman in the last stages of a magical girl phase, when you still have the power, intelligence, vivacity and attractiveness of youth to draw men to you, but find that drawing them to you is no longer enough, that you are groping your way into the world of difficult compromise and self-disclosure that adult relationships require.
If you are ready for that, you will find your way. Here is a tip: The next time you are attracted to a man, try to see him not with your eyes but with your heart. Ask your heart what it sees. It may not see the glittering prince that you see with your eyes. By your heart I mean your intuition, your spider sense, the instant feelings of fear or attraction that you used to rely on as a child.
You're going to have to stop dancing and making love long enough to hear what the next man has to say. What he says may surprise you. It may also bore you. Such is life outside the ballroom and the boudoir.
::: posted by Matt Dunegan at 12:11 PM
Friday, November 07, 2003 :::
I am the illegible bachelor.
::: posted by Matt Dunegan at 9:20 AM
Monday, September 29, 2003 :::
But while we're bombarded with whos, whats and whens, Williams never reveals the fears, ambitions, disappointments and pleasures that would reveal the whys we want explained.
::: posted by Matt Dunegan at 11:17 AM
Friday, September 26, 2003 :::
Borrowed from Janie Jones:
You`re so gorgeous I`ll do anything
I`ll kiss you from your feet
To where your head begins
You`re so perfect you`re so right as rain
You make me
Make me hungry again
Everything you do is irresistable
Everything you do is simply kissable
Why can`t I be you?
I`ll run around in circles
Til I run out of breath
I`ll eat you all up
Or I`ll just hug you to death
You`re so wonderful
Too good to be true
You make me
Make me hungry for you
Everything you do is simply delicate
Everything you do is quite angelicate
Why can`t I be you?
You turn my head when you turn around
You turn the whole world upside down
I`m smitten I`m bitten I`m hooked I`m cooked
I`m stuck like glue
You make me
Make me hungry for you
Everything you do is simply dreamy
Everything you do is quite delicious
Why can`t I be you?
::: posted by Matt Dunegan at 1:01 PM
I have something to tell you, I have something that I want to share.
Don't wanna glaze your eyes over, I don't want to show off my nightmares.
I don't know why it is, it's just so
I don't know why that is, so there you go
Everytime that I hear these words it reminds me of you.
It's a funny old world and I want you to know you're very welcome.
I do hope you approve and it pleases me so to think you do.
Now please just between ourselves
Don't say a word to anyone else
Each time that I hear these sounds it reminds me of you.
The Master of this design, did give us garments and linens sublime
To garnish the hearts and thoughts we deign to find.
We who live to please must surely please to live.
Remember, not a word to anyone. This is our little secret.
we're turning the corner but we're not at our destination yet
and what of the future? what should the future hold? epilogue and conclusion?
::: posted by Matt Dunegan at 10:24 AM
Wednesday, September 24, 2003 :::
My love is like rolling cigarettes, if it's too tight or loose the whole thing falls apart
Your love's like a runaway caboose, and the engineer doesn't even know you're gone
My love, shows me how her garden grows, and when nighttime comes, we sail off together and dream
Your love's into everything that's gross, like amuptee love and midget pornography
Fools think love is like a carousel, for a shiny nickel, anyone can have a ride
Drool drips from the jaws of hungry hearts, so close your eyes and learn about the lover's art
My love is like rolling cigarettes, if it's too tight or loose the whole thing falls apart
Your love's like a runaway caboose, and the engineer doesn't even know you're gone
::: posted by Matt Dunegan at 12:24 PM
